| Five Practical
Ideas to Help You Get from Email to Live
Dates
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One: Talk on the phone
first. Ok, the other person's
picture looks fine - so let's take some time getting to know the
other person on the phone. It may be that they look great, send nice
emails, but are hard to understand, or sound like "something's not
right." Pay attention to your instincts. Talk to them on the phone,
at least a few times, before agreeing to meet them in person, in a
very public place.
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Two: Questions to Get Started
With? Here's a few icebreakers that
you'll want to know about in your emails and phone call to that
other person: 1) What do you like to do on your weekends? 2) Do you
like to go out a lot, or stay home? 3) What do you like best about
someone you're dating? 4) When you eat out, where do you like to
go?
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Three: Ask them upfront:
After a few emails and a couple of
phone calls, you may be ready to meet them in person. It's up to the
both of you. If they are evasive or hesitant to meet, ask them why.
It may be simply that they're shy. As long as you can phone them
without problems, that may be fine. But, also look for red flags (eg
answering machine always one, phone not answered regularly).
You may
want to ask them upfront, how they'd like to go about this, to see
what their ideas are. After talking on the phone a few times, you
should know whether or not you'd like to meet. Make plans, in a safe
public place. Then, have fun meeting them at a local
restaaurant or mall.
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Four: Being Ready for
Romance Getting started in a new
romance is both thrilling and a time of great uncertainty. Myself, I
like to plan on finding a woman who's both a friend and someone I'm
attracted to. Getting from a photo and description, to "first
contact" by email, to phone call and then meeting in person, is lots
of fun. Being ready to meet someone also means you may need to
juggle your schedule a bit - as dates take up time, as you're having
fun on the town with that new person in your life!
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Five: How Often Should I email
or call them? On the one hand, you
don't want to seem overly desperate. Then again, you don't want them
to think you're not interested. Finding a middle ground depends on
what each person feels comfortable with. Remember, one woman may
want to send emails twice a week, another, every day. Each person
expresses themselves differently, and works on a different schedule.
Part of becoming a good dating partner is finding out who you're
compatible with, and adjusting your style to fit the other person's.
Emails:
It's disappointing if an email isn't returned within 24 hours. It
also looks over-eager if emails are returned within 2-3 hours.So,
find a middle ground. Same with phone calls - always return calls
within 24 hours, but don't call back immediately, unless you're on
familiar ground with that special person you're talking with.
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